How To Move On

Learning how to get over someone you love is never easy and every person will need to do it in their own way and in their own time frame. Don’t ever let well meaning friends try to tell you that you should be ‘over it’ in a certain period of time. I once heard someone actu
ally use a formula (the number of months you were together would determine how many weeks it would take you to move on) to tell someone when they should be ready to move on. That is ridiculous. We all deal with things in our own way and you can’t use a set formula to determine when the heart will heal.

While you’re learning to live without your ex, make sure you live. Even if you have to force yourself, make sure you get back into the world and live. No one expects you to necessarily enjoy yourself (though you may be surprised to find that every now and then a little happiness can sneak up on you) but you can’t just hide away until the pain is gone. If you do that it’s very likely that the pain will never be gone because you are not doing anything to take your mind off of it. If you are sitting around dwelling on your hurt day in and day out, how are you ever going to get over it? It will
become your life if you’re not careful.
The first thought you need to change, if it’s there, is any anger you have toward your ex. Being angry doesn’t affect them at all, and causes unnecessary stress in your life. Do whatever it takes to let go of the anger. Talk to a trusted friend or counselor, forgive them, or focus on the the positive aspects of what you’ve been through to get past being mad.

Let’s be honest for a moment. Going through a breakup is always an unpleasant experience. It can also be difficult to forget about the relationship. These things wreak havoc with our emotions and make life tougher than it should be. We are quick to blame the other person for our feelings, and that’s the first mistake.
It will just take time to learn how to get over someone you love. To make it as easy as possible on yourself try to stay busy, live your life to the fullest, do only positive things that are uplifting and keep you moving forward. Don’t beat yourself up or set a time limit on your healing. You will find love again some day as long as you keep yourself open to it.

So, for all of you who are saying “I lost love, now what” just follow this advice so that some day you can move on and find love again. You may always have some feelings for your ex, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t find someone else who you love just as much… if you allow it.